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heathicorn:

did I ever tell you guys about how when I moved into my first apartment my dad’s move-in present for me was this bomb tee-ball bat that’s fuckin legit as hell and bright pink and hello kitty themed?

he gave it to me and said

"this is just so that if anyone ever tries to mess with you, after you’ve kicked their ass you can stand over them and knock their lights out and the last thing they’ll see is the cute and unforgiving face of hello kitty"

a+ parenting folks

rosalarian
rosalarian:

lovelygirlsandgeekystuff:

You’re a fitness model with a fitness website and a fitness carrer and you’re fit ? that was unexpected ! I have a degree in engineering, I get $65K a year and I’m ranked diamond in League of legends, what’s YOUR excuse ?
the word here is “priorities”, kinda works with everything, not everyone wants to be fit OR it’s very low priority in their life priorities. Being fit isn’t an “objective common life goal" that every human have. She’s neither rich or famous, some say that she wasted her life being fit !
The thing that you can make whoever goals you want for your life, just don’t shove it into other people’s throats or think your goals are better than theirs.
In a fitness context, I guess that’s motivational, but in a body positive context, that’s just saying that YOUR body is the one women SHOULD have because otherwise, it proves that they are lazy and don’t have willpower…that’s insulting…
My excuse ? I made my priorities in life and you made yours, I could blame you about all the thing you didn’t accomplished and that I did, that wouldn’t prove that you have less willpower than me.

Oh snaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!

rosalarian:

lovelygirlsandgeekystuff:

You’re a fitness model with a fitness website and a fitness carrer and you’re fit ? that was unexpected !
I have a degree in engineering, I get $65K a year and I’m ranked diamond in League of legends, what’s YOUR excuse ?

the word here is “priorities”, kinda works with everything, not everyone wants to be fit OR it’s very low priority in their life priorities.
Being fit isn’t an “objective common life goal" that every human have.
She’s neither rich or famous, some say that she wasted her life being fit !

The thing that you can make whoever goals you want for your life, just don’t shove it into other people’s throats or think your goals are better than theirs.

In a fitness context, I guess that’s motivational, but in a body positive context, that’s just saying that YOUR body is the one women SHOULD have because otherwise, it proves that they are lazy and don’t have willpower…that’s insulting…

My excuse ? I made my priorities in life and you made yours, I could blame you about all the thing you didn’t accomplished and that I did, that wouldn’t prove that you have less willpower than me.

Oh snaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaap!

sugarbooty

I wrote down this speech that I had no time to practice so this will be the practicing session. Thank you Alfre, for such an amazing, amazing introduction and celebration of my work. And thank you very much for inviting me to be a part of such an extraordinary community. I am surrounded by people who have inspired me, women in particular whose presence on screen made me feel a little more seen and heard and understood. That it is ESSENCE that holds this event celebrating our professional gains of the year is significant, a beauty magazine that recognizes the beauty that we not just possess but also produce.

I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, Black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: ‘Dear Lupita,’ it reads, ‘I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.’

My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me.

I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before. I tried to negotiate with God, I told him I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted, I would listen to my mother’s every word and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because He never listened.

And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then…Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.

And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away.

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.

There is no shame in Black beauty.

Lupita Nyong’o

Her remarkable speech from Essence Magazine’s 7th Annual Black Women In Hollywood luncheon where she won the Best Breakthrough Performance Award. Remarkable. Just…remarkable. *tears*

Media is not arbitrary, random, neutral nor apolitical. 

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forsher-man:

womaninterrupted:

bobbycaputo:

'Spinster' Photographer Poses With Mannequin Family to Depict the American Dream

Denver-based photographer and art director Suzanne Heintz was fed up with people asking her when she was going to get married. From her mother’s direct plea, “Just pick somebody!” to others’ woeful sighs of pity, Heintz lived half her life wondering where she had gone wrong. After years of struggling to politely answer the question, she decided to procure the house, husband, and offspring everyone so desperately felt was the pathway to happiness. Purchasing a pair of second-hand mannequins, Heintz set about playing house to achieve the American Dream. From a Parisian holiday to Christmas cards of wildly escalating happiness, Life Once Removed is a sharp, witty critique on the archaic expectations of domestic bliss and fulfillment.

Brilliant.

THIS WOMAN IS MY HERO

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wintersoldierofourdiscontent:

also unrelated but my mom has been having a real streak of hilarity recently.

anytime someone says “fox news” for any reason, her immediate response is “fair and balanced” in a witheringly sarcastic tone that would put daria morgendorffer to shame. actually this is not very recent. she has been…